I too share some of your sentiments Limey (you must have been editing when I replied above!). I do agree with much of your view. I also agree with Slyder that it's probably going to cause more offense than anything that dear Slyd has said...But I know I struggled with the question about weather I would fight to keep Imogen alive at 27+5 weeks. I actually made some bargains with the devil... I also drew some lines in the sand. However, I very well would have crossed them had push come to shove. Because she was my child.
When she arrested at about 6 weeks after coming home (she was in hospital) I ran from the room & I just shouted to the Universe. Then I did something that was on auto pilot. I went back in and stood holding her feet & told her if it was her journey to stay I wanted her more than she could ever know. But if she had to leave then I would let her go. She came back. I think it was a lesson in detatchment for me. I actually watched her die before my eyes. Seeing your child in asystole is not something anyone wants. To watch her gag on intubation. To watch her small body limp and unresponsive. I actually am almost hyperventilating typing.
So - long winded. But I get the decisions we need to make. I also know that some of what you've said Limey is going to strike a chord of deep resentment in some. But I do hear you & understand that your perspective comes from a deeper & wider view omn humanity. One I do get.
When it came down to it. I wasn't going to not ventilate my 800 odd gram baby. She had fought this long & I had the medicine available to save her. I am not sure if I am a hypocrite, a fake or what. But it was different. I remember holding views that prems that couldn't breathe alone and cost so much to sustain perhaps it was God's way (Universe, Goddess, law of Nature - whatever). Now, I see we have the medicine. I see my miracle eating a freshly baked bikkie as I type & she's wondering why I blubber.
Far out I don't know the answer but I do get you... *going away to rethink my authenticity*




But I know I struggled with the question about weather I would fight to keep Imogen alive at 27+5 weeks. I actually made some bargains with the devil... I also drew some lines in the sand. However, I very well would have crossed them had push come to shove. Because she was my child.
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