So today I went and saw the MCHN for his 8 weeks check - this is a different nurse to who I normally have.
What is your usual nurse like? Is she supportive of your parenting of Blue?

If she is then I think you need to just shrug off what the temp nurse said and keep doing what works for you. Maybe call the centre to speak to your usual nurse for some reassurance.

Sounds like you have had a rough time with him. Now he has settled for you and is content then keep doing what you are doing. I wouldn't want to go changing his little routine if it's working.

FWIW I've always let my bubbas lead the way and I've never had hell on my hands