My baby wont let me put her down!!

[Dotty]

sneakysparkle- thanks, i'm trying my best...its hard work though!!!
ll80- sounds like you have your hands full too! i've also tried breastfeeding my girl while lying next to her, but she just wont sleep lying down, she only sleeps in the sling or in our arms!! grrr, i'll keep trying though! i sure hope this passes soon though, i'm beginning to feel like i have no idea what im doing since NOTHING works on her!!!
MantaRay- yeah i try to remember that she is still so little and young, but when I'm so exhausted that's hard!!! i knew being a mum would be tiring, but boy oh boy, i didnt see this coming its also hard not to feel down when people i.e. the doctors seem to be sooo concerned that i have to hold her all the time, they make me feel like im a bad mum and doing something wrong!! they ask me if ive tried this or that, and when i say i have they look at me like they dont believe me! very frustrating!!!

[Nai]

DD2 was like this until about 8 weeks and she was on time. I would put her in her cradle and she would sleep for 5 minutes and then scream. She would sleep for 2 hours in a sling! After 8 weeks she started going longer and longer in the cradle so I kept persisting. 10min in the cradle then in the sling etc - now she does all sleeps in the cradle.

Your little one was so small that she may do this for longer but try to do it gradually - she is still just getting used to being out in the big wide world. It can be a scary place for the little ones.

[Dotty]

Thanks Nai, i hope my little one gets there soon too! doc seems to think she has reflux so that could explain a bit!! we'll see if things improve once she starts meds.

[MantaRay]

I had one DS who was like that and one who wasn't - they are all different Dotty and you are not doing anything wrong. You are a great mum and we have all been in that exhausted state, so don't be too hard on yourself Reflux might explain it, but my DS didn't have that, so there can be other reasons. On the plus side reflux meds will help if it is reflux, and either way things often improve after the early weeks - in my case it improved a bit after 12 weeks, and a lot after 16 weeks. Hang in there, it won't always be like this.

[Nettie]

Hi Dotty - you're such an awesome Mum!

I have two suggestions. Try putting a piece of your clothing which you've worn that day or the day before (so it smells like you) in the crib for bubs to lie on. It may trick her into staying there a bit longer.

Also, is she warm enough? I learnt this one the hard way. My DS would get cold out of our arms (we're suprisingly warm beings!) which made him cry out.

Try both those things and I'd love to hear if they help. They helped me, but my bub was pretty good to me really (and he was full term), so I haven't been in your shoes.

All the best of luck! I hope you get a break soon...

[*Beema*]

Oh Nettie your suggestion reminded me what we did!!!!

We used to put my breast pads in her bassinette, one's from that day, I tried it in the middle of the night one night and I was just exhausted and the only time she was resting was in my arms. Low and behold, she went to sleep and slept for a long longer than she had ever slept!

We then continued to do it for quite a while, especially at times when she has been unsettled at night..... like at the moment, and I have only just realised that I should try this again to see if it helps her overnight at the moment!!!

*Runs upstairs, rips out the breast pads and places them in the cot*

:hugs: Dotty, try to enjoy these times as it won't be long as they grow up sooo quickly! :hugs:
Take care
xxoo

[Reborn]

Ds was the same. I rolled up two old towels, wrapped thick blankets around them, then put them on either sides of the bassinet. Ds slept so much better. I think its from too much "emptiness" around them.