My baby wont let me put her down!!

[Dotty]

Thanks Nai, i hope my little one gets there soon too! doc seems to think she has reflux so that could explain a bit!! we'll see if things improve once she starts meds.

[MantaRay]

I had one DS who was like that and one who wasn't - they are all different Dotty and you are not doing anything wrong. You are a great mum and we have all been in that exhausted state, so don't be too hard on yourself Reflux might explain it, but my DS didn't have that, so there can be other reasons. On the plus side reflux meds will help if it is reflux, and either way things often improve after the early weeks - in my case it improved a bit after 12 weeks, and a lot after 16 weeks. Hang in there, it won't always be like this.

[Nettie]

Hi Dotty - you're such an awesome Mum!

I have two suggestions. Try putting a piece of your clothing which you've worn that day or the day before (so it smells like you) in the crib for bubs to lie on. It may trick her into staying there a bit longer.

Also, is she warm enough? I learnt this one the hard way. My DS would get cold out of our arms (we're suprisingly warm beings!) which made him cry out.

Try both those things and I'd love to hear if they help. They helped me, but my bub was pretty good to me really (and he was full term), so I haven't been in your shoes.

All the best of luck! I hope you get a break soon...

[*Beema*]

Oh Nettie your suggestion reminded me what we did!!!!

We used to put my breast pads in her bassinette, one's from that day, I tried it in the middle of the night one night and I was just exhausted and the only time she was resting was in my arms. Low and behold, she went to sleep and slept for a long longer than she had ever slept!

We then continued to do it for quite a while, especially at times when she has been unsettled at night..... like at the moment, and I have only just realised that I should try this again to see if it helps her overnight at the moment!!!

*Runs upstairs, rips out the breast pads and places them in the cot*

:hugs: Dotty, try to enjoy these times as it won't be long as they grow up sooo quickly! :hugs:
Take care
xxoo

[Reborn]

Ds was the same. I rolled up two old towels, wrapped thick blankets around them, then put them on either sides of the bassinet. Ds slept so much better. I think its from too much "emptiness" around them.

[Dotty]

Hi Manta Ray- thanks! i sure hope it passes soon! my girl is 11 weeks now, but her adjusted age is 5 weeks so who knows which age i go from?!?! either way, fingers crossed the reflux meds help, otherwise we'll jus keep searching to see why shes so irritable!
Hi Nettie, i really love those suggestions!! i'm definitely going to give them a go!! my girl starts reflux meds today too so fingers crossed that improves things also!
Beema- yeah i',m trying to enjoy the cuddles before they disappear...sometimes hard when you are buggered though
Waiting- thanks...will try that too!!

[catherinemoses]

You've got heaps of great suggestions here. I just want to add: have you tried a wedge pillow under her head so she is on a bit of an angle? Also does she like sleeping on her tummy? When DS was little he liked best to sleep on his tummy, so during the day I would have him where I could keep an eye on him and let him sleep on his tummy. Might be worth a try?
I hope you get a breakthrough soon.
I would probably go more from the adjusted age than her actual age.
HTH, you are doing a great job.

[*Beema*]

Hi [COLOR="Magenta"]my girl is 11 weeks now, but her adjusted age is 5 weeks so who knows which age i go from?!?! either way, fingers crossed the reflux meds help, otherwise we'll jus keep searching to see why shes so irritable!
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You go on her corrected age for about the first 12 months, it depends on the prematurity, often the more prem the longer they give them to "catch up". We often just used her corrected age to avoid questions, but unfortuantly when you are nearly 1kg, below the 1st%ile base on corrected age we still go sooo many comments about how tiny she was, now we just get how cute she is

It can be hard to enjoy the cuddles when you are so exhausted and you just want a break :confort:

Take Care
xxoo