My baby wont let me put her down!!

[*Beema*]

Hi [COLOR="Magenta"]my girl is 11 weeks now, but her adjusted age is 5 weeks so who knows which age i go from?!?! either way, fingers crossed the reflux meds help, otherwise we'll jus keep searching to see why shes so irritable!
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You go on her corrected age for about the first 12 months, it depends on the prematurity, often the more prem the longer they give them to "catch up". We often just used her corrected age to avoid questions, but unfortuantly when you are nearly 1kg, below the 1st%ile base on corrected age we still go sooo many comments about how tiny she was, now we just get how cute she is

It can be hard to enjoy the cuddles when you are so exhausted and you just want a break :confort:

Take Care
xxoo

[sunshine_sieben]

I haven't read all the answers you got, but i just wanted to send you hugs. My DD was like that, too. For about 3 months. I ended up carrying her in the Hug-a-Bub most of the day and we co-slept at night. I don't know how that would fit into your life, but for me, it was the ideal solution. She is now the most independent and rambunctious little 2 year old you could imagine. Although she still looooves her cuddles, which I am thrilled about, because I love our cuddles, too.

Sasa

[Dotty]

catherinemoses- thanks for the advice. we have elevated her bassinette but might try the wedge pillow too.
Beema- yeah i know what you mean!! Lily is 11 weeks and people still ask 'how many days old is she'? they look at me very strange when i say 11 weeks...even if i said 5 weeks they would still look shocked i think!! i cant wait for her to catch up, although is soooo cute, even though she is tiny!
sunshine_sieben- sounds exactly like my little one!!!! i think i can handle 3 months of this...fingers crossed its not too much longer

[sunshine_sieben]

Can you try lying down with her? At around 3 months of age, that's what I started doing when it was her nap time. I would stay until she was fast asleep and then sneak away. That way you get a little break.
Your daughter is still so tiny... She just wants the security of being with mummy. You are her whole world. I know it can be tough, being so needed all the time. But I have never heard someone with an older toddler complain about having cuddled them too much when they were little. yet, I have talke to many mothers who regret not having cuddled them enough while they still had the chance...

You are doing an amazing job. Do whatever feels right to you.Don't let anybody tell you what you should or shouldn't do. You WILL NOT spoil her. But on the other hand, you need to find some balance for your sanity, too. This balance will look different for every mum & baby pair.

Sasa

[Nettie]

Hi Dotty

Hope it's going ok. Did you try my suggestions? How did they go?

Hope you've managed to get some decent sleep...

[V21]

hi just wanted to send you cyber hugs.... the wedge pillow idea worked for us in dd bassinette, though she wasnt diagnosed with reflux, i think she just liked being more upright to sleep....

[Dotty]

sunshine_sieben Yeah ive tried lying down with her...doesnt work either! She physically has to be 'on' me in order to sleep....aghh very frustrating!!! but i really think she still just feels so afraid and needs that comfort. She is slowly getting better, she now screams a bit less when put down, so im hoping with time it gets better and with baby steps we will get her sleeping on her own!
nettie- yes ive tried putting the clothes in the basinnete....but no luck! as soon as shes in it she screams blue murder...will keep trying though
V21- thanks for the cyber hug, lets hope it helps

[Nettie]

Bugger... have you got the 'no cry sleep solution' book? That might help you a lot too.

[Dotty]

no i dont have that one, I've been reading the Harvey Karp book, The happiest Baby on the block..tried EVERYTHING from there too!!! grrr