I do it - if the Mum isn't looking or moving over. And I appreciate other mums doing it if I'm having a chat.

I tend to say "would it be a good idea to...?" rather than "do this! don't do that!" - but some children don't listen to that. The parents usually step in at some point, especially if the child is rough because they know that and keep an eye out. I have to keep an eye on DS atm because he's at the "mine, mine, mine!" stage.

I discipline differently to DH, differently to Nursery, differently to my Mum... and differently to other parents. DS should learn that not everyone does things the same as me but it's still OK.

I only step in if DS is upsetting someone or getting upset - he is able to deal with life issues himself. Occasionally.