HI there

Thanks for your reply
I may not have come across correctly sorry! My main concern is my DDs wellbeing, and having her so upset about going to sleep is really hard on us. Especially when she was getting so hysterical for so long and taking ages to calm down. I feed her all the time she gets upset but sometimes she won't latch on because she's too upset. So we have made a bit of progress in that I now have been able to calm her, firstly I was using my finger to suck on as she doesn't like dummies (this is after I have literally just fed her til full and put her in bed). But as soon as I take the finger out she starts balling again. Last night patting and shhhhing seemed to finally work but she didn't go to sleep at the end of it. When I say we leave her to cry its for no longer than 2-3 mins as we just stand outside the door and if she starts to get more upset rather than calm down we go straight in. I also think the TH routine is not good but as I had the routine and realised that DD was actually only wanting to eat every four hours at the start of the day and her sleeping was quite similar to the routine I thought it was worth a try (as of yesterday only!) but only lightly ie; she usually wakes around 7ish so I just go with her there - the only thing I am enforcing is a slightly longer wake time after that first feed as i'm worried that thats why she can't get to sleep until really late. Please don't think that I am wanting this to suit my lifestyle, if she was happy to go to bed late that would be fine but she is so over tired by the time it gets later and really grizzly and upset so she definitely seems to need to go to sleep earlier. In the end I think she only falls asleep from shear exhaustion.

Hope that makes sense