Hey Meg - big for you, cos this whole parenting thing can be the toughest gig in town.

Just reading your last post, where you said it was the crying that gets to you, maybe you need to change your focus slightly - forget about the sleeping, just concentrate on what you need to do to get her to stop crying. This way you're not fighting her, you're just comforting her, and you never know, the sleep might just follow. It's just a subtle change, but it might help you to find a level of calmness & control that you don't feel like you have at the moment.

Also, there's quite a lot of stuff written about the 4 month change - and looking at Isabells ticker, she's pretty close to 4 months. Maybe do a search on BB for threads about this stage, it might give you some hope/help.

I know it's probably hard to believe, and maybe a bit annoying to have people saying it to you, but it seriously does get better, or at least you get more experienced at managing it. There's so much that's changing in their 1st six months, but it does start to settle eventually, you will get there, and this phase will become just a vague memory. Then you'll have another bub....