Are we the only ones struggling? Feeling very alienated and lonely here

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i am puzzled about people mentioning "moving interstate to save money" - does that mean some parts of Australia are cheaper (than others) to live in?

I have a house for sale for $75,000 - nothing wrong with it, its quite a nice house (I lived there for 7 years), but impossible to sell it because it is at least 10-15 mins drive from anywhere. Its just cheap because of its location. Here, 15 mins down the road from that house, you're lucky to get anything for under $200k to buy or rent for under $300 a week. I've had my house for sale for ages, some people are interested, they go out and look at it and ask me endless questions online/by phone (its listed on Gumtree) but noone has bought it yet.

So there's definitely cheap spots, and some of them are actually quite close to not-so-cheap spots. But sensibly, most of the cheap spots are reasonably remote and you'd have to work from home.

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I think most people have walked this road before. It is not easy at all. We were there only a few years ago. Back then we had to accept what was crippling us financially (the car loan) and either knuckle down and clear it up ASAP, or drop it. We took the former and the day we made that last payment was very liberating. I mean we owed a fair amount of money to other people still, but it didn't seem as difficult without $300+ a fornight to pay on one bill. I still cannot comprehend how we actually managed to do it so I am afraid I cannot put it into words. It just took some sheer determination.

Prior to that we tried so much. Budgets are like diets - one self indulgent splurge and you are back at square one. It is even more infuriating when that self indulgent splurge is made by he who could not be bothered to get a clue! Lets not even get into that egocentric "well I earnt it, I should be able to spend it on what I want" BS. I earnt that baby bonus mate, I did more manual labour in those few hours than some men do in a whole year - and I spent it on bills and baby stuff. Man Up! You are not a bachelor with free maid service and trophy kids. Those kinds of words from a husband - while he may not realise it at the time - is economic abuse. I am certainly not saying that any of your DHs are evil men or anything like that. They may not even realise they are doing it, but it is a form of psychological abuse and you need to call them on it because it hurts, its unfair and it is no basis at all for a stable loving relationship!

Plus you really need him to be on the same page as you or the struggle will never end.

I also refuse to have credit cards. Evil things. Not your friend! Cut em up, pay em off. Learn to loathe the very sight of them. Instead, Hug your nearest layby counter! LOL.

There is light at the end of this tunnel, I promise. Remove the bills one at a time. Trying to pay them all at the same time nearly never works.