Why do I feel so guilty about spending money?

[ss_storm]

i just tried to tell him about then, without mentioning how much I spent, and he wasn't exactly pleased...oh well..lol. I did work it out and I would have spent $245 if everything was full price, or $120 without the extra discount, so I saved a fair bit even though I wouldn't have bought it if it was full price anyway. Maybe I would feel less guilty if it was 'my' money, i.e. I had done the work to earn it, or I would just be less reluctant to buy anything at all!

[boobaloo]

i'm the same, i got some clothes for the kids for next year yesterday, and just put them straight into the cupboard, without telling df. he always rolls his eyes when i buy clothes for the next size up, but i always get them on sale, and i'm prepared for the next season, and save a heap of money. i think you hit the nail on the head though, you feel bad because it's not money you've 'earnt'..

[Inertia]

You are a mummy now, Storm. Welcome to the club! LOL. You always feel guilty spending money in a family situation without discussion or thought first. It sucks but it is our lot in life.

And dont feel bad about how your DH may feel, lol. Usually they are way worse than us. I know mine is!

Wait til you spend a bit of money on yourself. Oh the guilt that comes with that one! Nasty. Pure Nasty.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

I know what you mean about earning it yourself.. DP always says you spend way too much and earn nothing... so when i do spend i feel horrid but yet he says "you don't HAVE to go back to work" go figure.

[Cassius2]

i get this BIG time. i stand in the checkout waiting to purchase (and can be anything: groceries, clothes etc...so not just the 'special' things iykwim) and i literally 'battle' myself in questioning whether i should or not (buy it). urgh i HATE it.

for me, it TOTALLY has to do with not being the 'earner'. before it was that i earnt significantly less (and therefore felt i shouldnt buy expensive-y things) and now it is 100x worse now that i have zero income.

totally feel for ya babe lol!

[Mum2Romone]

Yesterday I spent $40 all up on some new underwear that I desperately needed and some shoes

I felt so guilty I put off telling hubby til before I went to bed

But i did need them, thats the difference I think, Its not like I shop like I used to buy ten top in the one style but different colours because I cant decide or a million handbags....

[Inertia]

ZF, That is so not on! Id tell him to hire a maid, chef and babysitter and pay for all that so you can go back to work and earn your own money. But he has to pay for them all because you have been doing it for free for months - its his turn to shoulder the burdon. Some men just don't get the concept and need it spelt out for them in little words. LOL