Why do I feel so guilty about spending money?

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

I know what you mean about earning it yourself.. DP always says you spend way too much and earn nothing... so when i do spend i feel horrid but yet he says "you don't HAVE to go back to work" go figure.

[Cassius2]

i get this BIG time. i stand in the checkout waiting to purchase (and can be anything: groceries, clothes etc...so not just the 'special' things iykwim) and i literally 'battle' myself in questioning whether i should or not (buy it). urgh i HATE it.

for me, it TOTALLY has to do with not being the 'earner'. before it was that i earnt significantly less (and therefore felt i shouldnt buy expensive-y things) and now it is 100x worse now that i have zero income.

totally feel for ya babe lol!

[Mum2Romone]

Yesterday I spent $40 all up on some new underwear that I desperately needed and some shoes

I felt so guilty I put off telling hubby til before I went to bed

But i did need them, thats the difference I think, Its not like I shop like I used to buy ten top in the one style but different colours because I cant decide or a million handbags....

[Inertia]

ZF, That is so not on! Id tell him to hire a maid, chef and babysitter and pay for all that so you can go back to work and earn your own money. But he has to pay for them all because you have been doing it for free for months - its his turn to shoulder the burdon. Some men just don't get the concept and need it spelt out for them in little words. LOL

[briggsy's girl]

i feel guilty spending on me - never on DD. it's not about who earns the money (cos it has balanced over the past five years with both of us having periods of nil income) - it's just about needs i guess. she is growing. she will need new clothes. no question there. me, the stuff i want is to replace stuff i already have and have used to death or doesn't fit right now (my tees are all distorted from pg lol). i don't feel right buying replacements. i guess i have the thought that i could always wear something else... i dunno.

i am now the only earner in our house and STILL feel bad about spending money - so i can't say the thought of it not being "my" money applies lol

[Daydream Believer]

I feel guilty buying things because up until a few months ago if I bought something we generally had to miss out on something else or have to pay a bill late. Now that we a ahead I still feel guilty buying things.

[YoYo]

I totally know the feeling. We are contributing to the house and we don't get 'paid' so we don't get that satisfaction where we think we deserve to buy things for ourselves. We are living and working overseas (well DH is working....I'm just on the 'dependants pass') so we are earning a fair bit there....but I STILL don't spend. I am thinking about our future. We are there earning big money for our future, so wants the sense in spending it!

Granted I don't have to worry about spending the money, but I do. I don't buy myself things....it's all for the kids really....oh and food! DH will still spend money guilt free on things I think he is wasting it on....so sometimes I DON'T feel guilty when I need something.

The one I hate the most is having to buy DH a present using 'his' money. That is when I will feel better once the kids are off to school and I can get myself a little part time job. Earning some of my own money again will give me that dependance I need.