Wow at arriving at hospital at 9cm thats great work, but the pushing for 13 hrs i find highly unlikely.

In a hospital most policies are 2hrs pushing for first time mum and 1 hr for 2nd and subsequent pregnancys.

However sometimes these can be extended a fraction if all is well and progress has been seen, but 13 hrs NO WAY why did doctor allow this.

Mum would be knackered and chances are baby distressed.

4th dregree tear ouch very nasty, was obviolusly a reason why baby was not coming and now the poor thing may have life long issues with her bowels.