I know not everyone dilates as per text books!!

BUT closed to 4cm is hardest and often longest, and generally people dilate 1cm - 1.5cm an hr.
I certainly wasn't text book 7-8cm when i got to hosy 45min after ctx started, would have been 10-15ctx, started at 5ish and were 3 min when we got to hosy, then up to delivery for internal. I was expecting it to hurt a lot more to get to 8cm , but it hurt a lot more after that

13 hours of pushing that just seems dangerous, irresponsible, I would have been thinking more along what Sarah H experienced... sitting at 9cm for a long time, and perhaps pushing before she was fully dilated if she did start.... but 13 hours... just seems wrong especially in a hospital setting where the clock is ticking as such...