If you have a good relationship with him/her - I think you should also be led by whatever your doctor thinks. Try to remember this horrible illness time will pass like it did last time, and hang on as long as you can. However, WHATEVER you decide - after the event let it go and don't feel guilty or wish you had done it differently. What's done is done.

I do sympathise with you as I found the last few weeks so horrible I was induced as they were worried about my mental state. I have asked my DH to not let me be induced no matter how desperate I get unless my ob wants it for a specific medical reason. I found being induced was like being hit with a semi-trailer, 2 hour start to finish labour/birth. It was THE worst experience of my life, but it was also my first baby so I had no idea what the heck was going on! At least this time round we both have the benefit of experience and that's worth gold!!