Well obviously I haven't had my second baby yet so can't comment there, but I can say I wasn't in love with DD straight away. She was this squeaky helpless creature that everyone else seemed to be completely enthralled with until a point I think about the second day after I'd had her - It was the first time I'd been alone with her during the day, I was sitting in the nursery in the sunshine thinking "lets give this bf-ing thing a go" and the radio was playing, so I started to gently sing to her as she fed. And that was the moment I bonded with her and felt she was definitely mine.

Her birth was induced, but wasn't what I'd classify as overly traumatic. But I did find the swarm of people wanting to see her that first day was very distracting (seriously, about 6 or 7 different people in the first 3 hours of her life) and having all the medical staff checking us over every little while it made it quite difficult to bond with her in our own space. This time I think I might keep it to immediate family only for the first day at least.