FIrstly, I can give birth without pain relief and look forward to doing so. I can experience natural childbirth and look forward to doing so. I CANNOT do this while in a hospital surrounded by midwives and obstetricians - so I'm just not going to tell anyone I'm pregnant next time so I aren't bullied into a hospital. I'm also not going to tell my DH because he's as bad as any of them.

Educating yourself isn't enough. You have to educate your husband/partner, the midwives while you're in labour... even the obstetrician, if you're allowed to speak out of turn.

The reason why giving birth is bloody awful is because other people try to tell you what to do rather than just letting you get on with it.