Tenille,

Shoulder dystocia is a positional thing, it's just bad luck hon. I know people who had it once then never again, in fact not heard of someone having it twice.

I have heard babies of all sizes have this - its not only the bigger babies.

I would make sure you do some optimal fetal positioning in pregnancy and make sure you have an active labour to get that baby moving around. Read New Active Birth by Janet Balaskas. Get off the bed in labour or off your back and move often.

Sounds like you would prefer a vaginal birth over a c/s, and of course, there are lots of things to consider with surgery too, but most of all, it's important to understand the nature of shoulder dystocia and that it's nothing to do with your body being inadequate. It was just bad luck hon.