Thanks for the replies.

I know now that I was not active enough during the labour. I was on my back for the delivery, but when I think about it now I was most comfortable when sitting on the toilet. I delivered her head with no problems not even any tearing. One of the midwives tried to encourage me to move postions but through the pain I really don't think I paid enough attention to what she was telling me.

Hoobley, they tried moving my postition. I ended up with midwives and DH holding my legs up near my head. Not exactly sure what happened in what order but the Dr did an episiotomy, twisted DD and pulled her following shoulder out before the leading shoulder, which was the one that was stuck (does that make sense?)

During the pulling and twisting the nerves in DD neck were torn which paralysed her right arm and made her right eye droopy (the eye has healed completely and the arm still has a way to go) No one can pin point exactly at which point the injury occurred.

I know people who had it once then never again, in fact not heard of someone having it twice.
Kelly this has given me hope that I will be able to have a VD. Can't wait for DH to get home so I can show him, I think he is more nervous about the idea than I am.