I just wanted to add about the birth abuse thing LOL, as dachlostar said, you tend to become more loose lipped - you lose your manners in transition which is a great sign for those attending the birth - we know you must be close It's not for the whole birth, usually transition but most women I know are more along the lines of 'I can't do it' or 'I want to go home' or 'F***' - not so much dishing out abuse.

I know one woman who hit her partner and some who swear, some who cry - but you wont care when you are there, your body copes in it's own way and you'll just have to let your partner know that no matter what you do, don't take it personally!

When you give birth, your brain switches to the brain stem, which is the ancient brain which means you can internalise and rely on intuition - it's not the sharp, on the ball thinking brain we use everyday for problem solving. So your body just lets itself do it's job and you really wont care if you have no clothes on, if you swear or whatever you say.

I swore (at the pain) with Marisa as I was put on a drip after my water was broken and it was John standing there apologising to the midwives!!! I couldn't give a rats and even if I did, I was too internalised to say anything but release energy to cope - in my way which was swearing and crying LOL! But it was completely different with Elijah, but then I wasn't induced. I didn't say a bad word directed at John in either births.