I didn't give birth, but for me, having both your feet broken then the next day your "little" sister sitting on those feet because they were up on the sofa... that hurt more than anything that happened to me before or since. I found contractions and pushing didn't hurt whatsoever. It's like that bit in your period, just before it starts, when you have those warning pains in your birth canal - that's what pushing felt like to me. So not 100% comfortable but nothing I'd call painful.
I was expecting excruiating pain but it wasn't!!
Seriously I had a drug free birth and I can't even handle a blood test!
Your body tells you what to do when it is ready...
When it came time to have stitches I had double the local anesthetic I was supposed to have cos I could be in control(I was able to feel pain and had the time to think abouut it) and my head was in a completely different space than what it was during labour and birth.
That sounds so stupid but when you are going thru childbrth you trust your body so much that you don't question the pain..you just do it!!
It doesn't tickle but it is pain that makes you proud to be a woman!
I just want to say something. I wish someone said it to me before I had my first.
OK, it does hurt. Especially if you aren't prepared.
You need to remember to relax. Its hard, but you have to let your body do what it needs to do.
I was scared when I had DD1 & started trying to fight the pain. It slowed my labour right down til it almost stopped after 5 minute part contractions.
They gave me pethidine & in the end I did get through it without a ceaser. They were talking about it.
After I had DD1 my view on birth was feeling like you are being torn apart inside.
Now I've had 2 more my oppinion has completely changed. With DD2 I worked with my body. It was still painful (for me), but I got through it alot easier.
DD2's birth is the one I feel was the most amazing. It was drug free. I had 20 hours of pre labour, which I walked around town with, then about 9 hours of actual labour.
I hung at home til I thought I needed something for the pain, but when I found out I was already 7cm, I was so proud of myself that I didn't have anything for the pain except one breath of gas when I had to stop pushing for a bit.
DS's labour I feel was too fast & intense. It was over in 5 hours from start to finish. No prelabour, no warning. At all.
I did demand pethidine in transition, which I got, but it didn't start working til after he was born. It wasn't too hard on my body or anything, it was the mental part of it.
I don't know why, but my brain just couldn't comprehend that it was all over already.
It is hard work, but you have to tell yourself you can do it. Its hard, but make sure you relax through the contractions. In my mind with DD2 I was actually telling the bottom half of my body to relax.
When you get there & it does hurt, don't be scared of the pain. It IS normal.
Don't fight it. Let you body do what it was made to do.
Please don't be scared. You can do it. Just remember that.
To be honest I've not experienced anything that hurt as much physically, but all the time I was hurting I kept in the front of my mind, the pain was there for a reason. I wasn't in pain because something bad had happened or that I'd had a horrible accident. In fact it meant each and every painful contraction was bringing both my precious children closer to being in my arms.
I would however say that yes there is lot's of things that hurt more - they are the emotional pains that you can't control.
The pain of childbirth is all part of the miracle and wonderment.
Good luck for your birth, I hope it is all you hope it will be.
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