for me, i judge how hard/painful a labour is by the duration of it..... i can get my head around being in incredible pain for several hours, what i wasn't prepared for was being in incredible mind blowing pain for in excess of 24 hours....

i feel like i can get a grip on the pain if it isn't never ending... if i could have my second baby in say 10 hours or under, then i know i will think of it as the 'less painful' of the two labours, no matter what happens this time around... does that make any sense at all?

my first was 8 pounds 7.... i'm hoping for a healthy baby this time, but smaller would put my mind more at ease, but you don't find out the size until they are out so i guess its all irelevant!...