Alan, as you know I would have had you in a second!!! I think I personally would look for personality & support in a midwife over anything else. Yes experience does come to play of course, but if I had my pick than trust would be the strongest issue.

Would you consider employing an independent male midwife? Absolutely

Would you prefer a female midwife? Nope, gender doesn't matter at all.

What would influence your choice? Support & personality, trusting the individual to have you & your babies best interests at heart.

Any other comments would also be appreciated I too have had issues with midwives in hospital & I think the one who is present for the birth is the one that is the most important as far as support goes. If you are having a home birth, they are your only contact... some women may feel awkward discussing all about their bits with men, but personally I would feel more free to because I often felt disregarded in hospital by the midwives there.... when I asked about caring for my second degree tear I felt highly embarrased... when there was no reason to be.