Grrr.... C/S the easy way out!

[Arimeh]

Cos sisters do this. My sister has had 4 sections and still doesn't understand why I want a VB so much.

Just because its right for one person, doesn't mean its right for you. And to your sister - csection is definitely not the easy way out

[MagicSeahorse]

You do what YOU want to do. I Desperatly wanted a VB, but was forced to have an emergency C/S Too. If you want a VB, GO FOR IT! We are all behind you with this. I know it's not true for all, but always felt C/S was a cop-out. PLease don't anyone take offence to that, that's just me.
Any way what I'm trying to say is you have our support with this.

[CrazyLady]

You do what YOU want to do. I Desperatly wanted a VB, but was forced to have an emergency C/S Too. If you want a VB, GO FOR IT! We are all behind you with this. I know it's not true for all, but always felt C/S was a cop-out. PLease don't anyone take offence to that, that's just me.
Any way what I'm trying to say is you have our support with this.

:yeahthat:

Couldn't have said it better myself! Go with what you feel is best for you!

[Amaunet]

Gosh - sometimes i'm glad i don't have a sister! I don't think any means of giving birth is "easy" - but it is none of her business! Maybe you could ask her why her self esteem is so low she feels the need to "compete" with you about your birth choices!

[~*lilla*~]

Maybe you could ask her why her self esteem is so low she feels the need to "compete" with you about your birth choices!

:yeahthat: My ex friend used to be like that. I had an extremely traumatic c/s for my 1st birth, and rather than supporting me, she told me how lucky I was to have a c/s because vb's were so much worse. I did point out to her that she hadn't actually had a c/s so how would she know? Her reply was that having a needle in your back and a little scar was far less painful that 8 hours of the back labour she had

It was almost like a competition that she was more of a woman and mother because she had a natural birth. *yawns*

[Snacks]

Sounds to me like you really need this place to vent. Sounds like your sister is a PITA, but she's family so you can't shoot her, LOL!
If she is rude and then tells you you are oversensitive for calling her on it, it just sounds like she's got her own issues and they have nothing to do with you, Holly. Keep your head about you, mate. Try to just detach yourself from what she says: make the competition one-sided. May not make it less fun for you (she sounds quite self-absorbed so I imagine she'll still enjoy belittling you) but might make it less hurtful to you.

[smiles4u]

I was up & walking not long after giving birth (the hospital was busy & they badly needed my room for a birth) ... then a quick shower then off to walk the long walk pushing bub to my room ... i'd like to see your sister do that after a c/s

I have friends who have had a VB & C/S with each of the two children & funny enough they both said they would rather a VB ... but once again like Mel said we are all different as people in what's best for us at the time !!


*** Maybe tell your sister if she cares about you like a sister would to not bring the subject up again as it's causing you unnecessary stress that you don't need !!!

[HollyC]

I'm perfectly happy with the way my previous birth went and I haven't even mentioned how this next one will be born.

The thing that is bugging me is that my sister keeps on bringing up how this baby should be born and pushing for a c/s. I wish she would just mind her business and stop telling me her theories about birth.

That is wishful thinking though. She often isn't aware when she is being offensive. Gentle hints don't work with her and I don't take it further as that has proven disastrous in the past.

I guess I'm just having a whinge.

[fionas]

I've had a reasonably similar problem with my friends recently in that one of them inparticular wanted to prove a point and I think that's what your sister is doing. It looks like she desperately wants you book a caesarean so that she can go around saying that you've chosen the easy option and therefore belittling you in some way.

It sounds like she's a difficult person to deal with so I'm not sure there's ANYTHING you can do to get her to shut it. You could try something simple and direct like, "Please stop talking about the caesarean, it's my decision and I don't need input from you," but I don't think she'd necessarily respect your wishes. So I'd probably just say, "no, I haven't and I'm not going to - I'm going to see how things go."

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr ... people.

[Arimeh]

Holly - you are fully entitled to have a whinge - and believe me, I know exactly where you are coming from.

At the moment I'm having to deal with telephone calls from my mum, and she puts in things like "oh when you have the baby at the hospital" (no, I'm going to a birth centre) "oh, you'll be out of action for a while after the csection" (um no, I'm getting a VBAC this time round)

So try not to pay too much attention to it, and focus on just you and your bub. Thats what matters.

[Megan]

Holly, I don't get it either. I wanted a VB, but ended up with a c/s and 6 months later I still don't feel fully recovered and still have some discomfort. Why people think that is the "easy" way to have a baby I don't know.
When I went to my workplace after DS was born and mentioned I would like another baby, my old boss said "of course you would, you had an easy pain free birth", right after she also asked me "what's it like to be a lady of leisure?" (huh? a lady of leisure with a newborn?) Some people are just irritating and have these preconceived ideas of how things are and there's no changing their mind.
Good luck with which ever way bub comes into this world.

[Fleur]

Maybe you could ask her why her self esteem is so low she feels the need to "compete" with you about your birth choices!

Maybe she is trying to compensate for her own feelings by belittling you. Not very 'sisterly' but I guess I'm trying to see what might be causing her to act like this...

What kind of birth experience has your sister had? she says you haven't tried to 'push a baby out' - has she had a CS?

I've had both & guess what - there IS no easy way out!

you do what you want hun, birth your way & pfft to her. It's YOUR childs birth, try not to let her comments get you down.

Mel - I am looking forward to seeing your VBA2C BA!

[Winter]

Sisters press every button known to exist in a person!! I swear they do!! Are you the younger sister by any chance? Because I am 17 months younger than my sister and a million times stupider at times!

But, I do love my sister dearly, she would do anything for me, but sometimes the one thing I'd really lover her to do....(shut her pie hole!!)....is the hardest!!