Thanx Linda and Alan i feel much better about facing it all now. I just hope i have an understanding OB - they couldnt believe that i had a hernia at my age at the hospital and one time they even sent me home from the emergency room saying that it was just my bowels blocked then my normal GP had to send a letter to say that i had a hernia and that i needed surgery and even when i was just about to go into the operating theatre the surgeon kept asking me if i was sure i had a hernia so yeah i havent had great experiences with the hospital and i think thats what im worried about that they wont believe me when i say that it will be too much for my body to handle having a natural birth.

Thanx again for the support and i will keep you posted about the outcome.