I would recommend Marie Mongan's HypnoBirthing (even if you don't do the course). It totally changed my DH's perspective from thinking labour would be awful, to knowing I could do it.
If your birth supporters are not actually supportive though, you may find it a struggle as there will be times when you will be looking for them to help you through, like transition for instance. If you cannot afford a doula then perhaps a student doula could support you, or a girlfriend who has achieved the sort of birth you want. It really might be easier to have no supporters than ones who expect you to fail.
I've just said my husband, who wasn't much use at Liebling's birth, won't be there for the birth of any subsequent child. He failed me, therefore he doesn't get to be there again.
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