I would recommend Marie Mongan's HypnoBirthing (even if you don't do the course). It totally changed my DH's perspective from thinking labour would be awful, to knowing I could do it.

If your birth supporters are not actually supportive though, you may find it a struggle as there will be times when you will be looking for them to help you through, like transition for instance. If you cannot afford a doula then perhaps a student doula could support you, or a girlfriend who has achieved the sort of birth you want. It really might be easier to have no supporters than ones who expect you to fail.

Good luck hunny

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