i am curious also.. i had an episiotomy on 09 and am now seeing a gyno in regards to painful intercourse still!! they want to cut and restitch the area. i am wondering how another birth would go with that also. i realise its not exactly the same as your situation but will still be reading the replies to this thread. :-)
I didn't have an epi so i can't help with that OP but i'm just wondering if you had tried the hormone cream that is offered post birth. Sometimes it's just the hormones are out of whack and it makes DTD painful and this cream helps with it. Just a thought