How to get my baby out??? Part boo hoo part advice needed.
Today is my due date. I've had 5 weeks of pre-labour exactly. Everything hurts. I'm having pains everyday and I've had a blood stained show already, it started 5 weeks ago but I had more after the S&S. I feel like I've tried everything: RLT, EPO pessaries, positioning excercises, sex, nipple stimulation, walking, swimming, hot food and a stretch and sweep on Thursday afternoon... I think that's all.
Midwife was already talking about induction when I had the S&S on Thursday and after having a 21 hour labour due to being induced with my son I'm scared silly of getting induced again.
DF is on leave for the baby and the longer it takes for her to be born the less time he will get to spend with her before he has to start back at work again.
What do I do?? About all of it. I'm not sure if there's something I haven't tried that might help. If you know of anything please suggest it and I'm willing to try it!
I just want to meet our gorgeous little girl and give her all the cuddles and kisses in the world.
Last edited by Ella; November 14th, 2010 at 07:57 PM.
Baby will come when it's time for her hun - the best thing you can do now is to take some time to relax, connect with her and let her know it's time. Any fears you have of induction and long labour will be felt by your body and may delay her arrival.
Relax babe. I know this has been so hard on you expecially with all the exams, Get through Tuesday, then you will be at peace and magically go into labour Tuesday night :-) Thats my thougsh
DF sent me to get my nails done this afternoon, looked after DS so I could have a bath and made most of dinner and then cleaned the whole kitchen afterwards. I love him so much today. About to head to bed and spend some time just chatting with him and belly baby about the fact that we're ready for her to come. Hopefully she will listen.
Thanks for your replies, it can be so disheartening sometimes feeling like your body is just taunting you...
How about acupuncture? I had it with both my boys for a couple of months in the lead up (both born during 39th week). I hear it can work to bring on bub once you hit your due date. Acupuncture is virtually painless and can actually be quite relaxing.
And I can't help but mention the midwife talking about induction ... if today is your due date I can't see why you would need to be induced anytime soon unless it was medically necessary - thought you could go 10-12 days over provided bub and you were ok. Try not to worry/stress about induction - focus on, and visualise, a spontaneous labour. It can't hurt, at the very least.
Good luck - I hope you meet your baby very, very soon.
Try doing something really nice for yourself. Or perhaps a date night with your partner?
Don't run yourself ragged trying to get baby to move - I'm sure it won't be long now. Enjoy this time if you can. And if you don't want to be induced, then don't.
Hugs.
I had a show at 36 weeks and started contracting everyday for a couple of hours at 37. I finally had my son at 41 weeks the day before I was due to get scans. Given that he was 10lb 10oz and they tend to over estimate weight I am so glad he decided to come before that or the pressure wouldve been on. I did EVERYTHING and my head was wrecked and I was so tired and grumpy, so know where your at. But then he arrived. And it was magic! Keep trying all those things but mostly try and rest, get some sleep when you can, soon you'll be holding a precious new baby and the last month will be all but forgotten history replaced by cuddles, feeding newborn goodness and a whole different level of sleep deprivation.
Look forward to hearing about the day you meet your girl!
I had a similar experience 1st time 18.5hrs induced and with ds2 I was determined to labour naturally. Try sex, induction massage, at the 3d ultrasound (miracle me i think its called) near the hyperdome they do an awesome induction massage and above all else just try to relax, this baby will be born and you really only have a matter of days left whenever this baby decides to come. and just for the record goibng into labour on your own is awesome and so much less painful, labour was 7hrs 15mions from the first not yet painful contraction and close to 4hrs f really active labour.
I wish you a wonderful wonderful birth and babymoon and I hope it happens very soon for you
Oh and eta I had a plug coming out from 37wks i think it was and ds2 was born 41+3
My bub was 12 days overdue and I tried everything to bring labour on! Nothing worked... Until...
My midwife asked me why I was holding back, what was I afraid of?
I thought it was a bit of a silly question at first (I thought I was soooo ready to have the baby!!) but then the tears suddenly flowed and the words tumbled out of my mouth that I was afraid to have my DD present at the birth (homebirth, she was going to be there)! It shocked me that in the back of my mind I was so worried about it yet I didn't realize til that moment! I had been all for having her there.
I had a talk with DD and asked her if she really wanted to be there and she admitted that she didn't want too (news to me!) but she thought that I really wanted her there so she didn't say anything! Poor sweetheart!
Long story short, we all decided DD wouldn't be there for the birth, I relaxed about the whole thing and finally went into labour!
What I'm trying to say is.. Is there anyone you can talk to about your fears? It really helps to get things out in the open. I think sometimes our bodies hold back for a reason.
Goodluck... Sending lots of labour vibes your way! x
We all hate the waiting game when you hit your due date and it just keeps going...I remember it well and was SO sick of it, every single day.
But the first reply was spot on - we have to wait. They come when they are ready. This is the joy of havings kids...they are not us, they are independant and do what they want despite what we would like!
It sounds mean that you should have to wait but that is not my intention. We all get to this point! Use the time to chill as much as possible.
Have a good old cry, the type where you have rivers of snot and everything lol. It is such a huge release of emotions that sometimes you just need to let it all so that your body can let go. The mind is a powerful thing and like Stoked said, if there is something in your mind holding you up, you wont go into labour.
I know how frustrating it is when you have been having pre labour pains for weeks. My DD was born at 41 weeks (7 days over) and I had been having cramps and labour pains for weeks leading up to it.....
Have a good cry and let it all out..... she will only come when ready You want to let nature take it's course naturally.....
Acupuncture session the day before i went into labour helped I think!!
lol @efjay that was on my post
hun, if u have done all this n nothing has worked then im scared lol!!
i think that if this has all failed then that bubba wants to stay longer..
im trying everything too prob having a s&s on tues due to the fact im normally induced ive had 2 out of 3 preg induced.. i want natural now
but really GL i hope the bubs makes an arrival soon... **BIG HUGS**
How to get my baby out??? Part boo hoo part advice needed.
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