my plan was for homebirth and no hospital time at all.

in reality, my homebirth was transferred, ended up being an emergency c-section with complications of Bandl's Ring.

my baby was well enough to go home after a few days, but i was not. Due to no family backup, and my health, midwife wanted me to stay as long as possible. So as soon as i went home (end of sixth day), inspite of still having trouble walking and bending, i was responsible for the care of my nb all day long, until her dad came home at night and on weekends. He did all the bathing of her and the only food i ate, was what he made when he was home. (eating at 10pm). I was so envious of all the other women who had their mums and Mothers in law, that came to help. Or sisters etc. But i told myself, single mums with no family backup, must have it harder.

my midwife visited for the first six weeks, which was the only reason i kept breastfeeding, due to her being onsite to coach me on what to do. She got me one hour of a cleaning service, which i was so grateful for.