aw Percy *hugs* I have friends who are very pro-c/s and bottlefeeding & I find it hard too. I often have had to say "If that is the way you want to do it, fine with me, but I have chosen a different way according to what I have read & decisions I have made" & I usually leave it at that. As for getting the midwives details, do you remember where the party was? Can you drop a note in the letter box asking for them? I have had people ask me for the doula's number that I was in contact with and they are complete strangers, I am very happy to pass on details Too bad I'm in QLD