Months away but 2 big issues really worrying me

[BlackRose]

No advice just a

I truly hope you get to experience all the joy that this baby brings you without these 2 issues hanging over your head.

Families... Wow..

[Charlotte91]

Families suck. They really do sometimes.
I think that Tashy has given you some really good advice (as always, Go Tashy!)

I just couldn't read and not post.
Congratulations on your pregnancy, honey.

[Liviam]

Once again you ladies always seem to have the words that touch me and help me through . Thank you!!!

I guess with my family there is nothing I can do except wait and see while keeping everything crossed that they will come around and love and accept our precious little baby, whether it be a boy or girl. I truely hope that they don't believe that I am trying to replace my beautiful angel nephew. I have tried to talk to my family about it but it made it worse, sadly. Guess this one is out of my hands.

As for coming on the 20th I had never thought of it the other way - how it can fill that day with a new meaning of love and joy. Bit obvious now you very clever ladies have pointed it out to me. I truely believe in the power of a woman's mind & body when it comes to labouring so maybe I just need to give myself a very stern talking to before hand. One lady at work actually does massages to help resolve issues that might be blocking your body going into labour. I might just need to make an appt when my due date is approaching.

Thanks for your opinions, help and support everyone. I feel really quite selfish worrying about me and how it is affecting me when my whole family is in quite a mess at the moment.


I think I need to go back to my psychologist (I'd been going so well for a while).

[LionsandBears]

just want to say, you dont need a stern talking to, you need some gentle, loving care

Yes, your family is in pain. You're in pain too. It's a different pain to your sister, but it's still there. I imagibe you're devastated for her. I imagine that may bring up fears for your own pregnancy. It may be similar to survivor guilt.

Go easy on yourself. These are important issues to you. It wont hurt to see a psychologist. The body clearing work sounds great. I get kinesiology and reiki myself. One thing to talk about may be some kind of pschic protection for you and your baby from the hostility in your family. You can do it yourself - do some meditation and surround yourself with a bubble of peace, like a shield of white light all around you. Only positive messages can get in. Negative messages bounce off. You can also do a separate one for baby. It helps if you're having a freak out, which happens. If you need to express your anxiety, just surround bub in a bubble peace. It helps, even a little bit. I learnt that off hypnobabies, btw. I highly recommend it.

As for the rest, try to let it go. The serenity prayer or similar can help with that. A trick to letting things go that you cant control is write a letter to whomever or the universe. Sit with it a while, then go outside and burn it, visualising letting it go as the smoke and ashes fly away. You may need to do that multiple times throughout your pregnancy.