Oh Renee, you poor thing!!!! Try noto to stress too much about this, altho I totally understand how you must be feeling. At least he has the 4 weeks off, and the likelihood would be high that he will be there... Given that most 1st time babies are born a little late (I think???) maybe he would be better to plan 1 week before due date and 3 after??? although who knows when little Rory will make an appearance?? I think a Doula is a great idea, and if you hired her now she could also meet Dwayne and build abond there so it is more like he is with you?? Gosh I dont know how you must be feeling, I would be lost and I would also be worried about being resentful if DH missed the birth. I know it is for good reasons but I understand why you worry about that. At least your Mum will be there... I am sure he also feels awful about it, I am sure you have spoken about it but perhaps another discussion and the Doula hiring process would help. It would be nice if he prepares some letters or something for you to read at the various stages (early) and leaves them with your mum too maybe - then it is morelike he is with you.