For me I think the difference between being scared or excited of birth is being informed. I got induced with ds and ended up with a c/s and I believe the reason it affected me so badly is because I didn't know what to expect, didn't know what the obs were on about, didn't know I could refuse things and didn't have an advocate.
I am having a homebirth vbac this time, and while I know sometimes things are taken out of your hands, if I end up transferring, or having another c/s I too will know I have done everything I can to have a great birthing experience with minimum intervention.
Birthskills is a fabulous book, my doula actually lent it to me, I have read a hypnobirthing book too and I think the more options you have for pain relief in terms of vocalising, moving, whatever, the more likely you are to be able to cope with things and have an enjoyable birth.
I am glad you are looking forward to it, and I hope you have a wonderful experience.