If you had the whole fear, tension, pain, cycle going, unless you have someone really experienced in support to help bring you back it can be difficult to overcome.
Hey Kelly, have a look at my post today in my birth de-brief.... This was really an issue for me & the midwife I had was fantastic and helped me when I was freaking out but I realised after talking to Cailin last night that it was losing her support may have been what stalled everything.