One vaginal birth, tore but not stitched (just into muscle and no more, not bleeding heavily so midwife agreed to leave it be). I BF for 7 months, but i think that helped tone my uterus rather than my vagina. Looks different - slightly "ragged" where the tear was, but just the skin and i can tell the difference where XDP failed to spot it - familiar as he was with me. Was "normal feeling" (according to XDP, who i was still with then) at 8 weeks post partum. DP now has no complaints.

As an aside i was also very paranoid, especially about my new DP since i kind of thought since it was XDP who got me pregnant he'd need to like it or lump it if it was all slacker afterwards, so i did lots and lots of kegels. Am now more toned down there than i ever was and my orgasms last MINUTES. Lol. It's my top tip. :0

Hana