Jorja, I hear you!! im on number two and it's been a 7.5 year gap!! So Im pretty scared. I had an epidural last time and that was great, but I don't want one this time if I can help it, as I don't want to risk it hurting my back more. So Im pretty scared about all the pain. Because of epidural I only had the first 5 hours of contractions and then the last half hour of pushing. If my labour is just as long Im not sure i'll cope with the pain.
Anyway, Im successfully avoiding thinking about it most of the time, just by being so unorganised. we haven't even got a cot or anything yet, so Im hoping that will keep my mind occupied up until Im due!!
Im also trying a TENS machine this time and hoping it helps. In a way, Im hoping Im much more active in this labour and enjoy the experience more, so Im kind of excited (until the first bit of pain comes on Im sure).
Good luck and lets hope 2nd time our labours are SHORT and easy!!!!!! xoxoox