Rainbows ... I think this woman needs support, not a personal attack. I notice this is only your second post. I hope your first was much nicer.

Page, the counselling sounds like a good idea as there is obviously stuff going on there (as the others have said). Hope that helps her to come to terms with the changes ahead.

The fact that she is even saying these things to you (knowing you have had to go through IVF) suggests that she doesn't seem to be thinking very clearly at the moment. Hope things improve soon.