Thank you all very much for your responses. I understand it is an uncomfortable topic and I appreciate you each taking the time to pass on your thoughts and advice.I thought I'd provide an update on my sil. She called my husband last Saturday night to inform him that she lost the baby. I'm not going to push the subject with her, as I'm sure it's possible that she is telling us the truth - even though she did tell me that if she chose to abort her baby that she'd tell people that she lost it....I haven't had an opportunity to speak with her, so not sure where she's at. She told my husband that she's sad but will not be trying to fall pregnant again. He was left feeling a bit annoyed with her, but for different reasons. She told him that he couldn't possibly understand what she'd been through (our reproductive history, like many on this board is quite extensive and emotionally painful) and that being fertile was a curse - I just wish that she could learn to filter her thoughts before they reach her mouth, doesn't do her any favours on occasion !
Thank you again,
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