I agree - I've got a student midwife following this pg through, since she started, she's missed all of 1 appointment, and we've caught up a couple of times. She's done personal research into VBACs, delayed cord clamping, physiological third stage etc (all the stuff I want). She's gone above and beyond to be helpful and engaged in the process (more than DH sometimes!). Admittedly, she is also a friend, but she's taken this very seriously, at the same time as managing a full time course load and two children (1 y-o and a 2 y-o).

I think saying she's not welcome as you don't know her is a good thing for her, as it is a privilege to see a woman at her most vulnerable, and her most powerful and experience that sort of thing. I will be forever grateful to the woman who allowed me to witness the birth of her little one when I was a student nurse. One of the most amazing things I have ever seen in my life. Good luck!