Tearing naturally vs episiotomy

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Everybody has said it already so I'm just backing up what they've already said.

A tear is a thousand times better than being cut! I was cut first time round and needed over a hundred stitches. I was restitched twice because it wouldn't stay together. Although I wasn't cut and didn't tear second time around (thankfully!) every client that I've had who has just torn, has needed less stitches and have had no problems with healing.

So, all in all, I've seen the proof that a tear is better. Saying that though, in it an emergency, sometimes a episi could be needed.

Eta- as far as consent goes, legally they have to have it. I was not even aware they had done mine until after I'd given birth. Nothing was said to me and it's a story I've heard all too often. I guess all you can do is have it on your birth plan,have dh aware of your choices and also let hospital know. That way, they are given no option but to tell you. It's dodgy, but it does happen.