1. Has anyone ever been told not to push just to wait for a doctor (other than an emergency, prevent tearing etc, not just for him being stuck in traffic)

No, I wasnt told to not push. I got asked "do you feel like pushing" and I said yes, so the midwife said "well then start pushing when you feel like you really need to". My daughter ended up getting a bit stuck and an Ob came in to attach aa scalp clip to monitor her. I'm pretty sure he tried to do it between contractions, but he might have asked me to stop pushing while he was getting the clip on. I cant remember!

2. Would you have killed your husband for telling you not to push (like he is suddenly and expert) and slapped your midwife for telling you to blow candles all because the doctor is stuck in traffic?

I probably would have told the midwife to shut the F up because I'm pushing now. We dont need a doc .. etc

3. Was your desire to push so strong that no matter what anyone said, you just had to do it????? And was it satisfying?

I cant remember. Its a bit of a blur. I had pethidine and it killed my memory. It was definately a strong urge to push. I'm pretty sure.

Sorry a bit off topic, but what is this lip thing and why would it mean that you cant push?