Your doing a good job. There is a reason why it takes a long time. Listen to your body, do what it tells you to do. rest. If you are ever worried or unsure call bs, even just for reassurence. And when they ask what do you want to do, its because it is your labour, your body. If you are comfortable at home, stay at home, do what you are doing, but if you dont feel comfortable at home anymore go on in. Them saying to stay home is because you would feel more safe and comfortable in your own space, than doing this early stuff in a foreign room.

You are doing a good job!! try everything, if it doesnt help or work, stop and try something else. and most of all, relax!! stay calm, and don't forget to breath =)