I was laying on my side with my knees slightly apart and held towards my chest, if that makes sense. One thing I was always told was to not push when you feel it start to sting (when the baby is crowning) so when that happened, I stopped and waited (until it starts to subside/feel sort of numb) to give myself time to stretch completely. I also didn't have any drugs which I think can help you feel what is going on a bit more.