Gothmum, you did good to be so assertive in a situation like that when most women would feel quite vulnerable. Sounds like there was no need whatsoever for you to be hurried up - quite the opposite! You did well to (ahem) kick away the unhelpful advice, stick to your guns and go at your own pace. Sheesh if a 4 hour primip labour is "taking too long" what hope is there??

I agree with you that being unmedicated (ideally) helps you manage the pain better, keep your freedom of movement and use of gravity, and avoid tearing because you can feel what's going on and 'listen' to your body.