Reply With QuoteWell fingers crossed they'll get an OB or get some education to advise them of the pros and cons of both situations so that they can make an informed choice
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Vag vs C-section
I had an interesting conversation today that when they have a baby (years away) they are going to have a c section because they can't handle pain and a vag birth wrecks your body?!?!
I was a little gobsmacked.
I would have thought it would be the other way around!!
Love MN ;-)
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Well fingers crossed they'll get an OB or get some education to advise them of the pros and cons of both situations so that they can make an informed choice
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lol totally!
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I think its very different / personal for each woman.
Depends on the 'circumstances on the day' lol (a term I've heard of a lot lately lol).
I've had 2 x c/s's and have been lucky to recover well on both occasions - however not everyone is so lucky. No doubt the same story exists with VB's too?
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My sister has the same thoughts and its the only reason she had 2 c/sections! Unreal isnt it!
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I think its really sad that people think like this, and that its even sadder that most OBs dont even seem to argue - or educate people on the facts.
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I think it has alot to do with confidence and information.
When you don't understand something its natural to fear it. I found educating women about what labour pain actually is does immense things for the confidence they have in their bodies, in themselves and in their birthing ability.
On the other hand- if shes informed and confident in her decision then thats that hey
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oh wow! well i guess every woman is different.....i just know that with DS i had a c/s and was on morhpine for the first 2 days (which made me soooo sick) and was also stuck in bed for 2 days cause i couldn't move and then couldn't walk properly for weeks afterwards cause i was in so much pain from the major abdominal surgery....with DD had a VBAC and stitches, but as soon as the epidural wore off i was walking around, i couldn't believe the difference!!....and with J well.....no stitches at all, perfect birth and within a few days didn't even know i'd had a baby.......personally vaginal delivery is sooooo much better....but each to their own
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Interesting but a thought that many women may have? My gf was discussing the same thing with another friend of hers - first bubs was emerg. c-sect and she wanted a vbac. Friend suggested she just have a vbac so she not 'wreak' down there as well as her tummy.....
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my DH wanted me to have a c-section with our first baby cause he thought he was quick and painless until he went to antenatal classes and realised how much more recovery is involved
i had 2 easy natural births with stitches and was bouncing around the ward only hrs after i had my 2nd
different story with my 3rd as currently ill need a c-section
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Most people my age (early 20's) have that view. Scares the crap out of me and makes me so frustrated when I hear it. All we can do is provide the correct info I guess.
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I've had two c-sections, one went to plan and the other didn't... unfortunately it's almost like luck of the draw on the outcome in regards to pain... fingers crossed this one will be positive...
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My situation is a bit unusual because I had SPD. I had a VB first time around because everyone told me that SPD did not mean I would need a caesar. Worst thing I ever did. An 18-month recovery and for the first six months I was basically housebound. Also meant I delayed having no. 2.
Opted for a caesar the second time around, despite many well-meaning people on here again telling me that I needn't have one. THE best thing I ever did. I was better after six days than I was after six months after the VB and immediately contemplated no. 3, the recovery was that good.
I agree that some people are misinformed and seem to think that a caesar is an easier option but I also think that some people put a VB on a pedestal that is not always useful for people like me who face a unique set of circumstances that make it totally advisable.
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There are a lot of myths out there about birth and it can be hard for someone to stand up and say "no, that's not the way it is" to people who've had this stuff ingrained in them for generations.
I'm not ttc yet but I've already had people in my family say to me:
"You should have a caesar because you have a very low pain threshold and would never handle the pain of a natural birth."
"You won't be able to have a natural birth because your Mum had to have caesars. She would have died if she'd tried a natural birth and so would have you and your siblings."
I've read a lot on childbirth but it's still going to be an uphill battle for me to get support for a natural/vaginal birth. It would be even harder for someone who might not be educated on the subject. Especially when all you ever hear are the horror stories and that normal natural births are the exception.
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completely understand that as well. i also had a friend who has had 2 c/s with her kids, and had staples (i had stitches) and i couldnt get over how quickly she recovered as well!! i was a wreck after my c/s, but she seemed to bounce back great. also, if i were to have another baby.....i reckon i would choose to have an elective c/s at 37 weeks just because of my situation......so like i said, each to their own......
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I think until you have been through a traumatic painful vag birth you can't say its better than a c/section. The pain and issues that I had were far worse and went on for far longer than my twin sis who had a emergency c/section. I was on pain meds for a whole lot longer and I KNOW I don't have a low pain threshold - I have endometriosis!!! My sis has since had a vbac and wishes she opted for c/section again.
Yes I hear about the quick recovery peeps make after vag, but that didn't happen for me! just my opinion though
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I completly understand for different circumstances. and I understand the differnce of opinions and beliefs.
But with a routine Vag and a routine csection. wouldn't the healing be better for the Vag.
and as far as wounds/stretching/tearing etc, the csection is more invasive and damaging? I am correct in thinking that yes?
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I'm not pro-c-section MN but I am anti-demonising c-sections if that makes sense. My c-section was an absolute walk in the park. ESPECIALLY compared to my VB (which was not a routine one though). Much easier recovery.
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