Vag vs C-section

[MusicLover83]

There are a lot of myths out there about birth and it can be hard for someone to stand up and say "no, that's not the way it is" to people who've had this stuff ingrained in them for generations.

I'm not ttc yet but I've already had people in my family say to me:
"You should have a caesar because you have a very low pain threshold and would never handle the pain of a natural birth."
"You won't be able to have a natural birth because your Mum had to have caesars. She would have died if she'd tried a natural birth and so would have you and your siblings."

I've read a lot on childbirth but it's still going to be an uphill battle for me to get support for a natural/vaginal birth. It would be even harder for someone who might not be educated on the subject. Especially when all you ever hear are the horror stories and that normal natural births are the exception.

[Razzberry]

I think until you have been through a traumatic painful vag birth you can't say its better than a c/section. The pain and issues that I had were far worse and went on for far longer than my twin sis who had a emergency c/section. I was on pain meds for a whole lot longer and I KNOW I don't have a low pain threshold - I have endometriosis!!! My sis has since had a vbac and wishes she opted for c/section again.

Yes I hear about the quick recovery peeps make after vag, but that didn't happen for me! just my opinion though

[Catastrophic]

I completly understand for different circumstances. and I understand the differnce of opinions and beliefs.

But with a routine Vag and a routine csection. wouldn't the healing be better for the Vag.

and as far as wounds/stretching/tearing etc, the csection is more invasive and damaging? I am correct in thinking that yes?

[fionas]

I'm not pro-c-section MN but I am anti-demonising c-sections if that makes sense. My c-section was an absolute walk in the park. ESPECIALLY compared to my VB (which was not a routine one though). Much easier recovery.

[Tuesday's Child]

IMO it's not about VB vs c-section. It's about education. Clearly the person MN had this conversation with is uninformed. Hopefully they can make use of the years before giving birth to learn more about it.

[BellyBelly]

Sex After Childbirth - Will It Ever Feel The Same Again?

There's something for the birth and it's effects on sex/vaginas.

[KimB]

Thanks Kelly for putting up that article I read it with interest. However that was not the case for me. My 1st birth was horrendous. I ended up under a GA with the episiotomy from hell. It would have been easier and kinder to do a c/s. I ended up having repair surgery (that I'm not sure even worked) in 2005 as when they sewed me back up from the epi they didn't sew my pelvic floor muscles back together . I felt then, and still do, the after effects from that 1st birth. I used to have great control of my p/f muscles and now there is nothing, also I have numb patches from the mega scarring that occurred. I'm sure a c/s would have caused much less problems for me. In saying that I went on to have 3 vag births after my 1st (no noticable difference to the sex angle though) and then a c/s due to PE. My c/s was good. Not much pain afterward and I did take it easy for the next 6 weeks but after that i was fine. I'm very well educated on v/b v's c/s but I'm still tossing up what to do with this next birth. Have many aspects to consider and not much time left lol.

[mooks]

I had a traumatic induced vaginal birth with DD1. Even 6 months later I was still experiencing pain. I was absolutely dreading birthing DS. His induced birth turned into an emergency csection but even with staples in my belly, I couldn't believe that I felt less pain afterwards. DD2 was born by elective csection and again I had absolutely no problems with the recovery. I wouldn't hesitate to have another csection. Just me though