Were you scared beforehand and how did you remedy that?

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I've had fears every time.

With DD1 I was young & had no idea. The thought of how this baby was going to come out never occured to me til I was 6 months.
But even then, its hard to really fear something you don't know iykwim? I was more scared of tearing/episiotomy & stitches! When they dragged over the trolley for cutting the cord I shiite & said 'you're not gonna cut me are you?'

Second time around it hit early on. That I'd have to do that again... But second time around I dealt with the pain of labour so much better.
I knew what I needed to do to get through it & out of all 4, it was the best labour in every way.

Third & fourth time I wasn't so worried. I'd been there 2 & 3 times already, I had no worries at all that I could do it again.
With DD3 though, I was terrified of a c/s. Its always been in the back of my mind that it could happen, but with her I was petrified that it might actually happen.

I've been lucky enough to have no major tearing & no stitches & I'm thankful coz they were my biggest fears!
Knoweledge is power. The more I knew, the less I feared it. I wasn't even worried about the possibility of an accidental home birth!

[Visitor7]

I have been scared with all 3 about giving birth. Not the actual labour part, I knew I could handle that, but the actual giving birth part scared me. I didn't have the confidence to believe in myself. Even when birthing DD3, I think because it happened so quick (8cm - delivery was 2 minutes), I didn't even get a chance to realise that I could do it on my own. I would have loved to have had a homebirth, but I was too scared of the birth.