Im due to have number two in march and DD will be 2.5yrs old. We dont have ANY family that could look after her in australia and really no friends close by that would/could do it. id love to have her with me, cause that just seems natural to me, but DH hates the idea, and i dont have a support person for her during the labour anyway....i have NO idea what im going to do!!! what did you do?