That's awful!
I think you should find yourself a wonderful independent midwife and stay away from the scaremongering.
It sounds as if you'd be perfect for a homebirth and if that's what you want there are plenty of people who can help you achieve that safely.
A good friend of mine just had her second homebirth. She also had her first baby at home. Both of her babies were over 9lbs and she had no problems at all.
Your body is made to do this and you already know it can do it successfully. Go for it and don't listen to rubbish like that!