Another thing I heard that increases pain is being asked "are you in pain?"

I am having a homebirth and we had a meeting last week (midwife, trainee doula, DH and a friend) and I told them all I want positive language only, so I hope that helps!

On the point of horror stories, I havent heard many, but the ones I hear I just think well thats your story not mine! Also most of them are what inspire me to birth at home without medical intervention.